Why Some People Can’t See the Truth (Even When It’s Right in Front of Them)
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about something that keeps happening—on the news, in discussions, and especially in online spaces. We watched January 6th happen on live TV—saw people attack the capital, break windows, and yell about hanging the Vice President. And yet, there are people who say it didn’t happen that way. That it […]
If I’m Not Helping, Do I Still Have Worth?
Unraveling the Trauma of Constantly Needing to Be Useful. Most of my life, I’ve felt as though I had to earn my place in the world. Not in any grand manner. Just in that subtle, tiring way that says, Be helpful. Be of use. Avoid occupying space. Don’t make it about you. I discovered early […]
Escaping the Trap of Learned Helplessness: A Way Forward for Trauma Survivors
For those of us actively working toward healing, there will eventually arrive a point when the depth of our scars becomes painfully clear. Years—sometimes decades—of wearing the masks of confidence, competence, or control as we negotiate life suddenly reveals how much fear, anxiety, and impotence have been guiding us all along. Many trauma survivors find […]