What Is Relational Trauma? Why It’s So Hard to See—And So Important to Name
Relational trauma isn’t one big event—it’s a thousand small moments that teach you to shrink, appease, and disappear. Here’s how it forms and why it lingers. Most people’s idea of trauma is of large, dramatic events. A natural disaster. An accident. A furious outburst. Something clear, urgent, and intense. But for many of us—especially those […]
Why Do I Push People Away? Understanding One of the Hidden Impacts of Childhood Adversity
I’ve spent years yearning for actual, closer relationships. Friendships with a genuine sense of safety. Relationships that allowed me to be totally myself. Still, I’ve continued to push folks away somehow. To keep them at arm’s length. I never intended for this to happen. It just did. Someone would reach out, and I would hesitate. […]