Relational & Attachment Disruptions: When Connection Feels Unsafe
Some people long for closeness their entire lives but can never quite relax into it. Others keep their distance, even from the ones who love them most. Some cling too tightly, terrified of being left. Others vanish the moment things start to feel real. All of these patterns come from the same place: an early […]
What Is Relational Trauma? Why It’s So Hard to See—And So Important to Name
Relational trauma isn’t one big event—it’s a thousand small moments that teach you to shrink, appease, and disappear. Here’s how it forms and why it lingers. Most people’s idea of trauma is of large, dramatic events. A natural disaster. An accident. A furious outburst. Something clear, urgent, and intense. But for many of us—especially those […]
Why Do I Push People Away? Understanding One of the Hidden Impacts of Childhood Adversity
I’ve spent years yearning for actual, closer relationships. Friendships with a genuine sense of safety. Relationships that allowed me to be totally myself. Still, I’ve continued to push folks away somehow. To keep them at arm’s length. I never intended for this to happen. It just did. Someone would reach out, and I would hesitate. […]